While emotions during divorce can be all over the board and vary from person to person there is one thing that all people, but women especially, deal with when going through a divorce – the feeling of being absolutely overwhelmed. The cause of the divorce is irrelevant, it doesn’t matter if your spouse blindsided you with divorce papers or you were the one that made the decision to end it, the fact remains that at some point you’re going to find yourself very overwhelmed with all the changes that are taking place in your life. Here are a few steps you can take now that will help you keep things in order and make your life easier in the long run.
Get Your Finances in Order
Start by immediately getting all of your financial records together. Several factors determine exactly what paperwork you’ll need, so do a little research or speak with your attorney so you can be sure you have everything that you’ll need. Don’t leave these papers in a place that is easily accessible by your spouse. Instead keep them at your parent’s house, a friend’s, or in a safety deposit box. Having them all gathered and in the same place now will save you from running around later trying to make sure you have everything in order.
Save Money Now
Realize that often the divorce process and legal fees will end up costing more than you’ve anticipated. If you’re one of the many women whose husband controls the finances in your home then you need to plan accordingly and start saving now. Too often women are given the short end of the stick when it comes to divorce hearings because they didn’t have the money necessary to ensure that the verdict came out favorable. Make sure to also plan for the day-to-day living that you’ll have to do once separated and the divorce has been finalized.
Handle Your Financial Accounts
This means opening checking and saving accounts in your name only, get credit cards that are solely in your name, remove yourself from all joint accounts, and change your will and directives. The sooner you’re able to do this the less risk your putting on your credit. Especially if your marriage isn’t ending on good terms you could find yourself in danger of having severe damage done to your accounts and credit history.
No matter how many precautions you’re able to take you will still find yourself feeling overwhelmed when going through a divorce. With all the changes your life is undertaking it’s completely normal. However, by completing the above tasks as quickly as possible you’ll be taking a huge load off of your shoulders. Especially since waiting to complete those things could end up doing further damage to you financially should your spouse be vindictive. Keep in mind that divorce is never easy and no matter how well prepared you are you’ll have days that you feel absolutely overwhelmed. Breathe. It’s normal.