It goes without saying that divorce affects people differently. No two people, especially if those people are a part of the same disintegrating relationship, are going to feel the same emotions or process things the same way while going through a divorce. However, there are a handful of things that everyone should be aware of and keep an eye out for when it comes to the tolls divorce can take on your health. It’s easy to get swept up in the paperwork and logistics of it all, but even more important that you seek help if any of these conditions presents itself.
If you’re going through a divorce then you can expect anxiety to come with the territory. Most people deal with it when going through minor life changes so it stands to reason that it would play a big role when nearly every aspect of your life is changing. While some anxiety is normal, there is a line that you need to be wary of crossing. If you find yourself exhibiting controlling behavior that isn’t in your nature, locking up during activities you’ve never had issues with before, or experiencing panic attacks then you need to seek out help to resolve the anxiety you’re feeling.
Normal weight fluctuation is normal for all of us, even if we’d rather it not be. However, drastic weight change is something that can be concerning. While going through a divorce, or even after one, it isn’t uncommon for people to notice their eating habits change. Some people may seek out food as a source of comfort, others may find that their appetite has seemingly disappeared. Some weight change isn’t a cause for alarm but if there’s been a major change then it would be in your best interest to speak to a counselor, nutritionist or a doctor to make sure you aren’t damaging your health.
While anxiety and some weight changes are commonplace and not always a reason to be overly concerned, depression is something that you really need to keep an eye out for. Feelings of failure, isolation, loneliness and hopelessness are just a few of the signs you need to be aware of. Sometimes depression can be triggered by the cause of the divorce. For example, if your spouse cheated you may find yourself feeling unworthy, unloved or simply not good enough. It’s important to seek out a therapist if you feel these emotions surfacing. Not only will a good therapist be able to help you work through the depression, or get you on the correct medication to do so, but they will also be able to help you find the source of these feelings and confront them head-on. That way you’re also less likely to have to deal with depression in the future.
Unpleasant emotions are unavoidable when going through a divorce. However, being aware of what’s normal and what needs attention is imperative to your mental, physical and emotional wellbeing.